it's about a wife, a husband, and another woman.
One day, somehow, the wife found some pictures of her husband with another woman.
The wife made a personal account in one of the most famous social site in internet, using the other woman's name. She told about the sort story and hypothesis about how the other woman know and close with her husband, completed with the pictures and comments about it. The comments could tell us how angry she is, of even resentful, and that it's an ongoing process that still will going on for sometime in the the future. It is not over! not yet. then she added all people who could be connected with the other woman, especially people who put the same college's name. I guess she wants to make sure that 'the world' know what the other woman did to her family.
this is just one story that remind me to the all same stories. and it's interesting to see that almost all in the wife position do the same thing, put all the sin to the other woman/man. Like there's a rule that say that "The evil is always the 3rd party". And the somehow 'legitimate' spouse do, is trying to push her/him away from his/her family.
If the 3rd party 'succeed', then we could hear things like: "She TOOK somebody Else's husband", or "He TOOK someone's wife". What is he/she? a briefcase? or some cow that can be taken against his/her will? c'mon...
Could anybody take somebody's wife or husband without their will? If it's a kidnapping i think they could be. but, a marriage? an affair? or even an adultery? if it's done by force, then we're talking about criminality, but this? c'mon...
WHAT IF the spouse what it to be with somebody else then his/her partner? don't you think that it's a very possible situation? Even we could push the 3rd party away, WHAT IF our partner don't want to be with us anymore? Can you imagine to live with somebody who doesn't want to be with you, even for the children? so there always be a chance to get another 3rd party anytime? Can you still call it A MARRIAGE?
Now tell me, who's the evil?
I'm sure that there will always be an explanation of what they're doing. and i believe that people always try to choose the best choices for their selves. even it is wrong to be for other people, or they regret it in the future. But at that very moment, we are all try to choose the best for our selves.
I could not judge people, but in this situation i really want to make a judgmental opinion (though it could means that i also judge my self in some unconscious level). For me, the GATE of this situation is THE CHEATER. He or She is the one that i want to blame first though it could be a systematic un-blamable situation. But still, they're the gate. The 3rd parties just the guests, who could not in if the GATE is closed, unless by force. But of course i realize that the GATE could also get overheated, so it just easily open when the room are too hot and the outside will be perceived as a much better alternative situation.
But of course, in a marriage, make sure that the GATE should be separated, before it open for another.
Goodluck with your marriage..
and mine too ;)
